b'FAMILY CONNECTIONSA collaborative approach Alf Chalk, a member of the Family Council at Bloomington Cove Community, contributed to shaping the Meaningful Visits program. His wife, Eileen, was diagnosed with Alzheimers in 2004, and he has been a dedicated caregiver ever since. "It all started when a friend noticed Eileen couldnt follow the steps in a fitness class," he recalls. Over time, Eileen lost the ability to write, speak and eventually walk, making it increasingly challenging for her husband to care for her at home. When the time came for Eileen to move into Bloomington Cove Community, Alf had to create a new routine for thema routine that has evolved over the years to accommodate the changes she has experienced. Today, Alfs visits often coincide with mealtime so he can help Eileen eat. Although her ability to engage is limited and he isnt quite sure what she understands, he talks to her about their family and what the latest news is. While Alf has always been an active visitor, he has seen other family members experience varying degrees of comfort in the home. "Its not surprising that families may feel uncomfortable and sad seeing whats happening with their loved ones," he says. "When the person youre visiting has limited ways of communicating or interacting, its hard to know how to be there for them. But I strongly believe that while they might not recognize you, they know you are a comfort to themyou are someone familiar."Alf emphasizes this sentiment, sharing how music therapy has been a source of joy for Eileen. "You can see her toes tapping to the music under the sheets," he says. "I play older songs she might recognizeAnne Murray and other Canadian artists to give her as rich an experience as I can because she deserves that."A care provider once shared with Alf a piece of advice that has stayed with him: "I hang my troubles on a tree branch before I go inside." He tries to go into every visit upbeat and with a positive outlook. As an experienced visitor in long-term care, Alf is also a welcoming presence in the community, always greeting residents and their families and offering support where he can. For him, its all about creating a sense of community where a friendly conversation can go a long way, especially when people are in the same situation."It\'s about understanding that the relationship is changing and supporting families in navigating these changes," says Lattimore. "Whether its through a favourite song, a quiet moment of holding hands, or engaging in a simple activity, these moments can be incredibly meaningful."For the team that created this program, the hope is that families and caregivers will feel supported, and as aresult they will be more present and feel a greater connection to both their loved one and the long-termcare community.LTCTNadia Daniell-Colarossi is a Public Affairs Director at Sienna Senior Living. www.oltca.com LONG TERM CARE TODAY 21'